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Meet Tessa

 

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Today we are graced with the sweet smile of 21-month-old Tessa Mae. Tessa’s darling, little pigtails always catch my eye on Instagram and bring a quick smile. Her mama, Cassandra, shares touching words with us as she reflects on life with her darling girl. You can follow their journey on Instagram at @cassandraallred. Happy 17th day of Down Syndrome Awareness Month!

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Tessa is the adventure we never knew we wanted, and she’s been surprising us since the moment we discovered she would have a little (extra).  Our initial thoughts of how our life would change with Tessa in it has turned out to look NOTHING like what we first imaged. Tessa brings as much, if not more, joy into our home as any of our other three children do. She is a light in our family, and we all adore her.

Tessa loves following her sisters around and getting into her brothers Legos (she knows the exact shelves that are off-limits and shoots directly for them)… Tessa loves her 8 year old brother the most and he often sends her into gut-laughing fits. Tessa loves to play, laugh and get tickled. She loves people and wants to be close to her family members by cuddling in and sucking her thumb. Tessa loves food, and eats anything and everything her siblings are eating. She’s learning to sign (and picking up new ones weekly) and loves to scream “Mama!” when she sees me across the room. Tessa is a people magnet wherever she goes, and loves to study new faces and play with other babies. Tessa loves baby dolls and likes to point to their eyes, ears and nose. Just like her siblings, she likes to nap in her own bed with her favorite blanket, she likes the straw cup best, and if I kiss her too much she bats my face away.

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I guess what I’ve realized most over these last 20 months is that life just feels normal with Tessa in it. Down syndrome didn’t collapse our world like I initially thought it would. Down syndrome hasn’t effected our quality of life or the love we share or the fun we have. In fact, quite the opposite. Down syndrome opened our eyes.  We want to celebrate and understand others differences and love them for it. In a world that feels so homogenous in style, fads, and culture, it’s a refreshing new perspective. I feel deeper and I love harder. I don’t take as much for granted. I want the world to know that Tessa is just a little baby girl, who loves her siblings, chocolate chip cookies, and cuddling with her blanket on her daddy’s lap. She also happens to have almond-shaped eyes and a third copy of her 21st chromosome- but don’t we all have something that make us unique? Life doesn’t let anyone off easy. Tessa will want and dream and become, just like any other child. And we can’t wait to be along for the awesome ride.

Finding and connecting with other families was my absolute saving grace while pregnant with Tessa. I mostly found them through social media. Because that was such a great sense of comfort to me, I share Tessa publicly on Instagram hoping that I can be a happy resource to a new family out there facing a diagnose that feels terrifying and unknown. Find our family at @cassandraallred.

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Meet Tessa Jo

 

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We are officially past the half way mark during Down Syndrome Awareness Month. Can you believe it?! So many more awesome kids to meet! Today I’d like you to introduce you to five-year-old Tessa Jo.  I connected with Tessa’s mom, Becky, a couple years ago through the magical world of Instagram (really, it’s by far my largest support network). Shortly after finding Becky, I discovered she had written a sweet book called  47 Strings: Tessa’s Special Code that explains the uniqueness of Down syndrome in a way children can understand. It’s beautiful. You can now follow Tessa Jo’s journey on Becky’s blog and on Instagram as  @dear_tessa. Thanks for joining us again today, and have a wonderful Sunday!

 

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What does Tessa Jo love to do?
Tessa really loves singing and dancing to Taylor Swift songs!  She also loves being outside, playing with her dog and her chickens and going for rides with her dad on the 4-wheeler.  Her favorite indoor activities are doing crafts, helping mommy in the kitchen and playing board games. She loves to eat, but I would say ice cream might top the list of all-time favorites.

What are her favorite movies and books?
She is a lover of Disney princesses; especially Elsa (shocker, I know.) Her current favorite movie is The Peanuts Movie.  One of her favorite books to read before bedtime is called Tickle Monster by Josie Bissett.

What do you think Tessa would do if she could do anything for a day?
If she could design a day by herself, I can’t even imagine what we would do…my guess would be that we would eat a big breakfast, then paint her nails or go to get them done at a salon.  Next I think she would love to go to a movie theater, get a great big bucket of popcorn and watch a movie. Then I think we would make cookies and head outside to play the afternoon and night away after that.  Of course I am sure she would love to close out her day by sleeping in my bed.

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How is Tessa both similar to and different from her siblings?
Tessa is incredibly patient and laid back most of the time.  This is where she differs from her younger, and much less patient, sister.  Tessa’s nurturing disposition is something that her little sister is picking up on.  At just twenty months apart, her younger sister really looks up to her and idolizes the things Tessa does; like going to school, riding her bike and writing letters.  However, it is Tessa’s little sister that is teaching Tessa more life skills in a way that I can’t; and I think that is largely in part to their closeness in age and how they relate in that aspect.  Tessa also idolizes her older brother who is a middle schooler now.  Tessa and her brother have very similar personalities.  Tessa has taught him a lot about recognizing and respecting differences in all people.  He is helping her learn patience with school work and she really loves when he reads books to her.

What do you want everyone to know about your daughter?
I wish everyone knew how capable Tessa is; that her diagnosis does not specifically define or limit her.  I think she is changing that in the way others see her by simply doing the things that all kids do and breaking down stereotypes in her everyday life.  The most wonderful part of knowing her is how much she has opened my eyes to a world I paid so little attention to before her.  She has been through so much medically, and she has really put life into perspective for me.  Tessa faces challenges and obstacles with a lot of courage and compassion. She shows me that it is okay to not get something right the first time; that the journey to achieving our goals happens in stages.  I always think about the moment we heard her diagnosis; and how I would give anything back to that moment now, knowing what I know.

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Meet William

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We’ve got another birthday today! William is celebrating turning eight! His mom, Elena, is sharing a few beautiful thoughts about her son today for day 15 of Down Syndrome Awareness Month. You can follow Elena and William on Instagram as @elenakathryn and on Elena’s blog Monkey Bear and Buddy.

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William’s favorite people are his two sisters. Just like any other brother, his favorite activity is tackling and wrestling them! William loves an adventure and this summer we went to Santa’s Village. William rode on every ride and swam in every pool. He is a fun loving guy but definitely likes things his way. William is not a fan of waiting and that can make some outings a little hard. Along with Down syndrome, William has apraxia so his speech can be very hard to understand but his big sister understands almost everything he says. When William is overwhelmed with frustration, his big sister is often the only one who can calm him down.

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William has taught my daughters to not make snap judgments of other children. He teaches them to be in every moment and not worry about what tomorrow will bring. He teaches them patience. As they continue to grow I know the lessons they learn from him will increase.

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As a mom of a child with Down syndrome, I think it is important to put William out in the world so others can learn from him as well. If I knew a child with Down syndrome before I had one of my own, I think I would have been less afraid. There is such a fear in the unknown. The medical jargon is so scary. But the reality of having a child with Down syndrome is nothing like what you imagine. William is perfect just the way he is and the love and joy he brings us is priceless.

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Photo Friday: Apple Fest

Photo Friday is a little glimpse at our week in pictures. To see more, follow @TheMangoMemoirs on Instagram!

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Meet Wil

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Have you seen Wil fly? He’s amazing! And today Wil is celebrating his third birthday right here on The Mango Memoirs! One year ago, I first introduced you to Wil and his incredible power of flight, made possible with a little help from his mom and dad, Nikki and Alan. They’ve had some pretty fantastic attention in the last year while sharing about the incredible potential of those with Down syndrome. Wil even has a calendar! Half of all proceeds from the sale of the calendars will go to Ruby’s Rainbow (I introduced you to Ruby just a few days ago) and to Reece’s Rainbow, two organizations changing the world for so many with Down syndrome. Pre-orders for the 2017 calendar can be placed right now by clicking here. You can continue to follow Wil’s flight at ThatDadBlog.com and on Instagram @thatdadblog and @nikkizl. Happy birthday, Wil!!

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What are some things Wil really likes to do?
run around making messes, playing with his siblings, teasing, reading books, playing with the toy kitchen and cooking everyone food which we must all try 🙂

What is his favorite movie?
Veggie Tales. Bob the Tomato is his favorite.

What would Wil do if he could design his own day?
He’d go from room to room making a huge mess!

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Who does he love to spend time with and what do they do?
He loves being with his siblings.  He mostly just lets them spoil him rotten.

What is something you want everyone to know about Wil?
Wil is the sunshine in our family.  Whenever someone is having a bad day or is upset, we send them to spend time with Wil and get a giant Wil Hug.  He radiates joy and happiness to all around him.  We are so thankful for him in our family.

What is something you don’t think many people know about Down syndrome?
They have a special spirit about them, they are so close to God.  If we all could look at life with as much joy as they do, we would all be better people.

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Meet Clara

 

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Oh, beautiful Clara Noelle. I first met Clara’s mom, Mandy, when I shared about my own experience as a parent of a child with special needs at a local early childhood meeting last December. I remember thinking how adorable Mandy was as an expectant mama. Just a few weeks later, I received a message from her. Mandy’s daughter had been born and, unexpectedly, she came with a very special extra chromosome. I don’t think that our meeting that day in early December was coincidental. I had a similar encounter before Sam was born, and I truly believe both were orchestrated by a God who loves us and loves his sweet babies. So, it is with such joy that I share Clara and her family with you today! You can find Mandy and Clara (now 9 months old) on Instagram as @mandyjopeterson

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What are some things Clara enjoys doing?

Clara adores spending time with her sisters Ellery (6) & Lucy (4). She loves to look at books with them, listen to their stories, play with them and loves when they sing to her. Watching our girls together makes me so happy. When Clara was born and we were given her diagnosis of Down Syndrome, one of our first thoughts were to wonder how this would impact her sisters. Our worries vanished quickly as the girls instantly adored Clara. They are thrilled with each new tiny milestone she meets and every giggle and smile she gives them. They are the proudest of sisters and cheer her on at every chance they get. We have talked a little about her extra chromosome and how she has to work a bit harder than most babies do to meet her milestones. I was so nervous to bring it up to them initially, but it hardly phased them and they love her intensely regardless of how quickly she is able to do anything.

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What is the most wonderful part of knowing Clara?
The most wonderful part of having Clara is how happy she makes us. She is seriously the sweetest baby and her smile just melts our hearts! She is so mild mannered, not one to fuss about much. She is an awesome sleeper and a total mama’s girl. She will smile at nearly anyone who looks at her and when we are out and about I am frequently told what a sweetie she is.

Having Clara has also enhanced the desires and goals I have for my family. My greatest wish is for my girls to be compassionate, kind and loving. And that they are strong enough to stand up for what is right, especially if that means they are standing up for someone who may not be able to do that for themselves.

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What have been good resources for you?
From the first days of Clara‘s birth we have been welcomed into the amazing Down Syndrome community. They have reached out to us when we were besides ourselves. My greatest resource in this new journey has been a Down Syndrome Diagnosis Network Rockin’ moms group on Facebook. I have been introduced to so many moms through DSDN who have offered support at every turn. Sharing this journey with others facing similar challenges has meant more to me than I can explain.

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